7/29/09

Steeling my nerves...

I finally called the future roomie to broach the subject. It took me a few days to get up the nerve to do it since I HATE confrontations. One of my friends had suggested NOT doing it over e-mail which I had been contemplating. But I sucked it up and called just to be sure that tones/voices could be heard.

Anyways, I kinda stuttered and kinda mentioned the conversation we had over the weekend, (not sure if I really mentioned what she said about "the bf's mother"), but I kinda blurted out the question of whether or not she had a boyfriend. You're thinking smooth right?!... I told you I seriously fail at being blunt with people.

In which she answered that "No, I don't" but there is a boy, but that's it's casual, just talking, etc. Then I answered back with the "I was just checking if we were on the same page about the overnight visitors, having bfs stay over, etc". Maybe I should have been more clear and said no overnight visitors...but I'm a wuss....so I proceeded to stick my foot in my mouth by saying "Not that I mind if you had a bf, or staying over but that I wanted to feel comfortable at "home", ie pjs, no bra...etc. And that having a guy stay over would be awkward." I was such a rambling idiot...:P

I totally hope that she got what I was trying to say through that whole crazy mess of rambling, cause she kinda mentioned, yeah if anything, she'd go over to his place. And that if a guy did stay over, she'd have to keep things clean, etc. And that's she's the same as me, as in being comfortable while home. :P I'm hoping this doesn't mean she is/was contemplating it...

The fleeting question I have now is if I heard wrong when I talked to her over the weekend, since I could have sworn she said her bf's mother... I didn't try to ask her about that since she denied having a bf to begin with....

Ok, I think I feel better about the situation, hoping that everything works out...cause if not I don't know what I'm going to do, other than try to find a new place to live in...*knock on wood*

5 comments:

Unknown said...

i hope it works out too! i'm like you... i have something all planned out to say and when the moment comes i say something completely different! haha! either that or after the moment, i get all these brilliant ideas of what i SHOULD have said!! =P

Rachel said...

Best of luck to you!! I hope it all works out! :) I'm sure it will!!!! :)

Bayjb said...

Ouch, sorry to hear you guys had to have the talk. I'm so bad in those situations. Keep us posted!

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Alyssa said...

fingers crossed!! im sure all will work out!

Moonjava said...

@Kym
Yep, that's why I'm a good listener! ;)

@Rachel
Thanks!

@Jessica
Thanks for the new link, and yes, it was a "preemptive" strike, so to speak...although I think it was more a whimper on my part since I fail at those type of talks where you're supposed to put your foot down, etc.

@Al
Thanks, I hope so too! I actually can't wait for a change of scenery, hopefully that will motivate my graduation plans to defend...:P