The low-down...

On the weekend in as anonymous as it can be (hopefully)....

Here are the previous installments of TG I, II, III.

So, yeah, I'm going to eat my words from the end of installment III. HOWEVER, now I'm even more confused about the situation. Which leads to the question of why guys give mixed signals...Seriously I think that would drive anyone nuts.

Quickie summary of Night 1:

• Saw TG, but didn't talk much in the morning.
• At dinner, TG was sitting at the end of the table, but somehow managed to move to a seat closer to where I was. (HINT 1)
• TG asks if I could give him a ride when he actually came with friends (HINT 2)
• Talked to TG some more later in the evening when he sat down next to me (HINT 3)

So again, I just put it down to coincidences, although this time, the second hint was a bit more "blatant". But I was thinking whatever...

Day/Night 2:

• TG calls to tell me where friends are watching the game and that he'll save me a seat.
• I leave to go home, I get a call later from him. He asks if I could give him a ride.
• Head to the club...after some dancing, we end up sitting down. Here's snippets of conversation throughout the night...Be aware that things may be out of order...

TG basically asks me why I'm still single and if I've dated a lot. I asked him the same questions back. In my answer I also included the fact that unless the guy directly tells me that he's interested, I tend to be completely oblivious. (My hint to him....) I ask him about his type, at first he refused to answer, but finally capitulates and says he's into intelligent girls.

This is where those hints...are like neon signs. LOL. He asks me if he remembers what he told me a year ago about wishing that he'd met me sooner at the same place. And then he proceeds to go through telling me about this past weekend starting with the presentation. He told me that he noticed a cute girl walk in with one of his friends...but didn't realize until I turned around that it was me...And then explains the seating situation at the restaurant. (Yes, he was basically hitting me with a 2 by 4...) He then mentions that when he met me more than a year, when I got into his car with my friend, he thought "This girl..." or something like that...He remembered the restaurant...

It's interesting though because I didn't think anything really about him then, since I didn't think I'd ever see him again. Anyway, so after he hits me with all this info...he then proceeds to confuse the crap out of me. He mentions stuff about timing not being right, and meeting people at opportune times, etc...and explains this is why he's trying to go out more and meet new people (I interpret this as, find dating material in the city that he's currently in). He also said that it's hard to get to know someone in bits and pieces....(DUH, I'm assuming he means us since I'm here and he's in another city in another state).

So girls, do you want to imagine my mindset after this...If there are any guys reading this...what the heck was he thinking? I mean, I've left out some more bits and pieces to this conversation but this gives the basic gist...I'm not about to throw myself at his feet since while I'm interested...it's not like it's moved onto liking him since I've only seen him three times in the past year or so. My question is why in the world did he tell me he was interested...only to throw that timing thing at the end. Talk about mixed signals...why tell me if you've already decided it wouldn't work because of distance.

I had no clue as to what to say, other than..."Oh, it's too bad that you're in so-and-so city." It's not like I'm going to say..."Oh, I think we'd be great for each other and I think we can make a long distance thing work...and I like you..." That's making so many forward assumptions...it could give someone whiplash. And I'm not about to make a fool out of myself before he says that he's ok with getting to know each other more...etc.

To add to the mixed signals, the next day a group of us had dinner together before his flight. So these foods can be ordered on different levels of spicyness...me being the weakling I am, can only take mild, but everyone else orders medium. TG starts to order his as medium, but then changes his mind to mild (before I put in my order, however I'm pretty sure he knows I don't eat spicy since I asked for a dish that was mild at dinner Friday night). He then kinda says, oh it's so that we can split the dish or something like that...And also when I first got there I thought he was going to order Meat #1, but as I was asking for recommendations from another friend (Meat #1, Meat #2 or Meat #3), I told my other friend, Meat #3...which I finally realized was the meat that TG ordered. So A) he changed his mind and happened to pick the same meat...or B) he heard me and picked what I chose...MIXED SIGNALS anyone...I'm getting whiplash...

Fastforward to today...I saw he was online and decide to im him (which we've done before). The conversation wasn't flowing as it usually does...he just wasn't into it. And he left the convo first...Again with the mixed signals.

And by the way, I realized today that friends did notice that we spent a lot of time together this past weekend. :P However, I'm thinking this isn't really going to work...especially since I have no clue, yet again, as to what TG is thinking...

Anyway, I've decided to ignore things for now...

So what do y'all think?