She's on a few dating sites and has multiple "boys" lined up. I really don't think I could ever do that since she's said she's already "hooked up" with one of them and has 2 more that she kinda likes. O_O
I must be totally old fashioned because that's just too much for me (haven't told her that obviously) since it is her life and I have no right to be telling her what's right or wrong even if I am older. I just believe in the whole serious relationship thing...and getting to know a guy on a "friends" basis. And NOT dating MULTIPLE guys are the same time.
I've always had a very traditional viewpoint on relationships, whoever my future relationship is IS going to be a serious long term relationship with marriage as a possible end goal obviously. I will NEVER just date for the heck of it, because it's just not me. I'm already awkward in terms of "dating" and would never feel comfortable dating a few guys at the same time. Can you imagine having to remember who you're dating especially for someone like me who tends to forget things pretty darn easily especially when I'm distracted? :D
I may have a very lofty goal, maybe even unrealistic, but there's gotta be a guy who feels the same way about things shouldn't there?
How do you all feel about "dating" multiple people at the same time?
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I am that way, too. I had a roommate who would not only "date" random guys at the same time, she'd often sleep with them (and I don't mean snoozing) on the first day or at least within a week of dating them. I mean, I know everyone's different, but that's just not my cup of tea.
And there are definitely guys out there that feel the same way. You'll find one! :)
For me, I believe in dating lots of guys at the same time until you find one you are ready to be exclusive with. Dating lots of men gives you lots of practice on how to be/not to be, how to fight, helps you find what you want/need in a relationship and helps you figure out FOR SURE what you DON'T want in a man.
I learned about what I DON'T want by being married and discovering in one man what wasn't enough for me. Same thing happened for him. Had I had a ton of dating experience, I probably would have know sooner he wasn't all I needed (and I wasn't all he needed) and we would not have put each other through so much pain.
That being said, I do not by any means advocate sleeping with these men. Dinner, dancing, drinks, movies, walks, ice cream...yeah...no reason (in my eyes) to do that innocent get to know you thing one man at a time.
Now that I've met my love, there is no way I would ever see anyone else...but there was a time when he didn't have me all to himself and he knew if he didn't step up and make me his girl, good chance someone else was going to.
I do admire your approach though and I sincerely hope it works out well for you.
I, too, am old fashioned in dating, though I've dated PLENTY of guys before I met my current boyfriend. Personally, I think there's nothing wrong with online dating, although I've never tried it. In theory, it should work better than meeting a guy at college or at an event. However, there's some loss of connection there, the chance of fate and fortune. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic...
@Gidget
I hope so too! I still don't understand how people do that, but again, it's not my life and my life is the only one I'm in control of. :)
@Miss Mercedes
Thanks for your thoughts! I guess for me, I would rather be on a getting to know you basis as friends before anything "serious" happens. I just don't think I can do the multiple dates thing, obviously it's my own opinion. Hopefully I find my Mr. Right even with this old fashioned approach!
@Gina
Lol, I've been debating about the whole online thing, but we'll wait and see. And I'm a hopeless romantic as well!
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